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IT IS BETTER TO BE NO ONE THAN TRYING TO BE SOMEONE THAT WE ARE NOT

By Costly Oma.

Young lady stoping young man from talking to her with her hands signaling.

Here is a story I came across some time ago. I think it is a story from one of those Bimbo Odukoya's "in blessed memory" shows I presume. There was this young girl who has been diagnosed with 5 deadly diseases that were encroaching on her being alive.

This young girl has gone to different religious places, herbal homes, native doctors etc. but to no avail. No solution was in sight. She grows so hopeless and helpless at the passing of each day. At a time, as the days pass by, what she can only say every day was a short word of prayer, that God if this is how you want to take me back then let your will be done.

She has been living like that for over six years, always on drugs and regular check-ups just to make her stay around for a while.

Then one faithful day, this girl visited the hospital for her regular check-ups. On this day, she went there alone, during the process of checking her up, she was required to pay some fee and the money with her wasn't enough so she was required to go cash some money. She went to an ATM and stood in the queue like every other person. While standing there in the queue waiting for her turn in the Bank premises, suddenly one fine-looking young man arrived at the ATM and walked straight to her in the queue and initiates a conversation with her.

Good afternoon pretty girl says the young man. The girl looked at him and ignored him completely by turning away. The young man touched her on the elbow and said, I would like to be your friend, what do you say to have me as a friend? This young girl feeling like she is been embarrassed, turned and gave this guy a slap and said leave me alone, can't you see I don't want to be disturbed. I don't want to be your friend.

This young man stood there like he was disgraced, confused on what next he may possibly do, stared at this girl for some time then turned to the other people around and in the queue looking at them in a one after the other manner and finally he spoke saying;

Everyone, please hear me. See this young girl here, pointing at the girl, she is dying from several illnesses inflicted on her by the evil one. She has gone everywhere she knew of and has been told that she could go, both the good and the bad just to get healing but none could give her the healing she needed. At this point, the girl was in shock, wondering who this young man was who knew such things about her. The young man continued and said some more things about her personal and private life, the young man took a pause. Looked and almost everyone again and said, for some days now, she has finally given up on everything and has been praying to God to take her instead of going through all that. God heard her but instead of taking her, he asked me to come. This young man still talking said, God felt pity for you and sent me to come and say these exact words I said to you. That If you accept me as a friend, all I'll do is to hold your hand in friendship and all the illnesses will be gone and your health restored instantly and I'll just leave and you would never have seen me again. That it is up to me and how I deem fit to react to your response.

But you see, looking at her now, you didn't only reject me, you slapped me also. Turning to the people, he asked, what would you have God do?

We can't even know the very thing we say we need or want when we see them.

Then everyone turned to the girl and asked her if all he just said was true and she said yes, everything he said is very true. The people wanted to rebuke her at first but in just a moment, everyone started pleading he forgives her. While still listening to the people, it appeared like the young man heard from above and said. He is not the begotten who is full of compassion so he can no longer touch her but then, he called out a child who was there with an older lady to go and hold the young girl's hands. As the child held the young girl's hands, the young man, in turn, hold one of the shoulders of the child and in just about a minute, the man was no longer been seen.

This young girl didn't say a word. Some of the people around started praying for their own issues also but then, the young man was gone.

The young girl became completely healed as she acknowledge how she is feeling at that point in time.

As fake as this story might sound, it has a deep moral in it.


Moral:

Every one God has brought your way has a purpose to fulfil in your life. 

Everyone God is bringing your way presently has a purpose to fulfil in your life.

Even if the importance of the person to you is not readily visible, do not despise people no matter how they appear or sophisticated you think you are.


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Comments

  1. Pricey DeeJanuary 4, 2022 at 6:02 PM

    Like you said. This story sounds sentimental but the lesson is taken. Thank you.

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  2. UnknownMarch 3, 2022 at 3:26 AM

    Have really learn from this. thanks

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  3. RosemaryMarch 13, 2022 at 12:38 PM

    Have really learnt a lot from this.
    Thanks for this

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