By Costly Oma.
Everything we hear is an opinion and Everything we see is a perspective.
It’s an obvious fact that loud people talk more than quiet people as liars are always on the talking side compared to those who are truthful.
There is this confidence that truth bestows on a man. When a man knows he is saying the truth about anything, there is this peace and confidence he possesses. For the most part, truth is both relative and subjective.
For instance, if two persons are suspected to be involved in a crime that only one of them could have really committed the crime, the people around who are observers, peacemakers or those who could act as judges should be wise to really differentiate between a lying tongue and the one saying the truth. The one who really committed the crime would be all out to cover his or her tracks with every means possible and most times get the innocent victimised. Records have it that the innocent in our society suffer most and the reason they suffer most is mostly because of their innocence. Since they don’t know about the crime, a fast criminal played a fast one on the matter and get them victimised and landed them in a big mess before they could have an opportunity to say jack.
The people present at crime scenes are most times the very cause of the innocent being victimised because of their (insensitivity) lack of genuine sensitivity and lack of thorough observation of the matter on the ground, and lack of thorough screening of the script been displayed to them by the schemer and hastily jumping into conclusions. We are often so much in a hurry to jump to conclusions and most times, making us make serious mistakes in life, not only to ourselves but also to others, causing them a great deal of damage in life most times.
There is a serious tragedy in human communication, understanding, observing, seeing, hearing, watching and listening that really baffles me most times.
Scriptwriters, storytellers, newscasters, news producers, gossipers, story amplifiers, etc. are constantly and always giving or handing us things to watch, things to see, things to hear and things to listen to. These set of people keep giving us their own side of what they want us to see, their own side of what they want us to take, their own side of what they want us to carry with us, their own side of what they want us to start telling and unconsciously, we dare not let them down. We can go on and on on this, but I do hope we understand.
The essence of this note is to bring to our consciousness the fact that, there are other parts of these scenes these scriptwriters, storytellers, newscasters, news producers, gossipers, story amplifiers, etc. are not telling or willing we should know about with respect to the messages they are passing or about the reports they are making or about the movies they had us watch and about the stories they are having us listen to on regular bases.
There is always a part of these things they don’t want us to know. Constantly, these parts they don’t want us to know about are always embedded in their scripts, inside the undertone of their voices but somehow we do miss out on them all because we are often too busy trying to get, trying to enjoy and trying to capture what they want us to get.
This note is geared towards helping us think vividly according to our individual thinking capacities, to see the possibilities of other parts or aspects of whatever is been displayed before us and, to critically and clearly know also, the other parts for what they really are, before jumping into conclusions, and having us buy what they've sold to us and still having us selling the piece which we have bought.
For the most part, I want to encourage us, that when we watch, see, hear and listen to things, we should focus more on the things not said, our focus should be on things they don’t want us to know, our focus should be on what they don’t want us to see, and on what they don’t want us to hear. Most often than not, their intent is to make a mockery of all our concern abilities in those areas and they often smile and laugh in contentment and satisfaction of achieving their purpose. How sad that people make us believe their lies, and not only that, we go as far as unknowingly preaching their lies also. See this illustration below.
Two young ladies A and B work as waitresses in a restaurant for a particular woman they called Madam. Lady A has eyes for big things, she can almost do anything to get what she wants and, everyone around lady A knows that. Meanwhile, lady B is cool, calm and almost appears to be contented with whatever she is having at the moment, though zealous to work diligently her way to the top where she wants to be. Most people around her appear to know that about her also.
A day came were two gentle-looking rich guys stormed their restaurant. One of them carried an expensive Phone with him, the name undisclosed. These two young ladies A and B working in this restaurant served these gentlemen meals, cutleries, water, sanitary accessories, etc. in the long run while these two gentlemen are yet to finish their time there, they observed that the phone that one of them was carrying is missing. After some contemplation between these two gentlemen, they resolved to call for the attention of the waitresses and waitress A was readily in sight so they beacon on her and she came. When she was asked if she saw any phone there with them she started fidgeting and saying she didn’t see any phone at all. She left and told waitress B that she is been called by the two gentlemen sited there, while she was not even been called. Waitress B went to them and asked them if they are calling her and they said no but that they are looking for the phone they came with to the restaurant. Waitress B acknowledged that she saw a phone with them but don’t know if it was the phone they are talking about (mentioning the name of the phone), and she inquired if that is the phone that they are looking for and these two gentlemen answered yes, and the waitress innocently started to narrate she seeing the phone on the table at a particular corner when she came to serve them something, and that how could the phone just grow wings and fly just like that.
As that was going on, Lady A, who took the phone from their table quickly and smartly transferred the phone from where she kept it and placed it in the bag of Lady B without the notice of anyone. Quiet shortly, the attention of their madam was called at by the not quite friendly activity going on in the area and when their madam got there, she was told everything about the missing phone and the men emphasizing that one of her girls should have taken the phone. She called her girls, searched their bags and saw the phone in the bag of girl B. she returned the phone to these two men who felt very disappointed at the madam and her girls for their customer relations services. Madam took girl B and throw her bag, her things and herself out of the restaurant accusing her of being a big disgrace to womanhood, herself and her family. And none of the people around could say differently, they were all spectators with virtually zero input or with no real good side input. The rest became history. What a scene that it was, that the innocent has to suffer. The innocent has to be the one to take the shame and blame for everything girl A did.
The truth in every scene is always right under our nose but we are often too busy, totally preoccupied with a belief paradigm to what the perpetrators are offering and so we end up missing out on all of the pointers been displayed towards the truth.
If only we can observe more than we watch, if only we can see more than our eyes can look, if only we can hear more than our ears can discern, and if only we can listen more than the way the ordinary sense can take, and watch with our conscience and not with our emotions, we will be able to minimise errors in these areas, increase our level of consciousness in most ramifications, and make our world a better place.
Let's always be on the lookout for what people don’t want us to see. They may not be necessarily hiding it. They are only making the part they want us to see louder than the part they don’t want us to see, they may only be amplifying the part they want us to see. The truth is always passed with the message they are passing, let’s not be carried away by their distractions and always be on the lookout for the truth. The real part is the part they are not amplifying, let's be on the lookout for that part and guard ourselves and our decisions with it, for our lives and future may greatly depend on those parts.
Most times, all there is, is not all that we see. The way and how we see what we see should most times matter to us much more than just what we see. Let’s be conscious about how we see what we see. Let’s Judge the way we see properly before unleashing a corresponding action, whether in words or otherwise.
Reality can be complex and, equally valid observations from different perspectives can appear to be contradictory.
Everything we hear is an opinion, Everything we see is a perspective.
In our families, as parents, our children who are not really on the good side of some things are sometimes always doing and saying one thing or the other for the other children to look bad in our eyes and most times, as parents, we often fall to their scheme and treat the very good ones badly.
Let's be on the lookout for someone who is always saying something about someone, they often always have something to hide.
Our politicians likewise, would come and sell us something, knowing how hasty we are, we would jump to conclusions without getting our facts right and we will end up falling for their scheme one more time. This is a story for another day though. Let's make things we say, do for and to others count for the truth.
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