What The Coming Back Of Your EX Truly Means

By Costly Oma.

"Sometimes your EX comes back around to check if you are still stupid. Sometimes your boyfriend comes back around to check if you are still stupid."

Those statements above or the statements that seemed like those ones above have been around for a long time now and I'm sure that social media is housing quite a lot of such statements presently.

I've never quite agreed with any of such statements from the start but I really did not want to say anything about it because as far as I'm concerned, people are subject to having their own opinion about things as such.

Surprisingly, the long-overdue opinion I didn't want to share was triggered by a post from someone I thought to think differently on the subject. I've not met this person before but we have been following each other's activities for quite some time and I was surprised to visit this person's wall on this day and be greeted with "Sometimes your EX comes back around to check if you are still stupid".

When I saw that, I first of all say thank God it says sometimes and not all the time even though I disagree with the sometimes also.

At that point, I know I have to pen down what I think about the statements. I know that you may have your own opinion on the matter so I indulge you to use the comment box below to state what you think about what I'm going to say.

Here Is What I Think About The Statements.

Firstly, only stupid people hang around stupid people. That is to say, the boyfriend or girlfriend that come back around to check the stupidity of their so-called EX is also as stupid. Birds of a feather flock together they say. The only possible coexistence of such people is when one person is smartly using the stupid person.

Secondly, I think that the one coming is the one that left the relationship in the first place because the only person that can come back is the one that left. The one that didn’t leave will just be there whether waiting or not. My point in this is, No one who has an opportunity to hang around someone he uses, easily let go of that person. 

This explains why our politicians don’t always want to let go of their political office. If the power is given to them, they would want to remain there in perpetuity. This doesn't matter whether the people want them to leave or not. This means that, no matter how we look at it, almost everyone is in what they are into because of their personal gain. 

Another point to this is, can any girl let a sugar daddy she is using to pay her bills go easily? The answer is NO or can a Gigolo let a sugar mummy he is using to step up in life go so easily? The answer is still NO. People don't easily let go of someone they are using to gain something.

My point in all of this above insight is to say. Most people come back to check out their EXs to see if their present state is better for them to breed something tangible because, perhaps, when they first started the relationship, they actually wished something good will sprout from it. They left when they lost hope of something better coming out from it.

One truth about women I find to be true is this and I quote, "not that women grow more patient as they get older, it is just that women grow tired of the unnecessary drama they put up as they grow older."

Most guys come back to their old relationships because they want to check if the unnecessary drama is reduced so they can work something better out. And I believe that most girls go back to their relationships for similar reasons too.

Now, to digress a little, I must say that there are several reasons people go back to their previous relationships and to mention but one, regret. Regret in the sense that they went and realized that the person they left was actually a better person for them than the ones they have met afterwards. This is by the way.

All of the above boils down to maturity. Most people leave their relationships because their partner displays a lot of immaturity in their everyday affairs.

1. A mature person doesn't talk unnecessarily. 
2. A mature person considers the other person.
3. A mature person only feels privileged.
4. A mature person doesn't feel entitled.

If at all an EX came back, They came back to see if the person they left has grown more mature in his or her affairs so they can stay to build on something better perhaps, there is a part of this person's life that they like and want so much but their immaturity didn't make them stay the previous time they came. They did not come back because the person was stupid. I may not know much about people but here is something I know about people in this context.

There are two types of people that smart people don’t let go of easily.

1. The wise ones because with them they learn and grow wiser
2. The stupid ones because they can use them at will. 
3. If a wise person ever lets a stupid person go, he is not coming back.

Most people have once said. Past relationships are like old books you’ve read before, even if you take it up to read again, you already know how it’s going to end. 

As true as this may sound, it is only for people who are not daring to grow in life. With growth comes change. When you are in level 5, (presuming life to be in levels), and your partner isn't someone who can coup with someone on that level so he or she got irritated and left but likes some other parts of you so much. They left because your core per se is on level 5. They may leave and come back again to see if your core has moved to the level they would not want to do without.

When they come back and find your core on the same level 5 they left, they would leave again and come back again until they can no longer come again.

But when they come and find out that more maturity has set in and your core has moved to the level they want, you would be surprised as to how thankful they would be for your paths to cross again.

People don't usually come back to their EXs to check if they are stupid or still stupid. If your EX comes back to you, just know that you are worth something important for him or her but perhaps an attitude or a character you are exhibiting is hindering something better to be founded. Instead of joining people who other people think for to talk, look deep into your life and make the necessary adjustments that you can make to make you a better person.

I hope this piece addresses this issue and still leave dozens of questions in your head.

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