10 Obvious Phases a Girl Child Pass Through Sexually.

As humans, we all go through phases in life. In fact, going through phases in life is one of life's inevitabilities. Whether boy or girl, male or female, we all go through phases. However, in this article, we will be seeing 10 different phases a girl child pass through sexually to adulthood.

Phase 1: The Infant Phase.

Between the girl child and the boy child, the girl child first becomes aware of her sexuality before the boy child. When they start becoming aware of their sexuality, that's when they start playing plays with the boy child with their backs on the floor or with their backs on the bed or wherever the case may be. At this stage, it requires just a little play with the boy child and she starts lying down for the boy child to get on top of her.

At this stage, she cultivates the kind of play that she would beat someone and possibly the boy child, then takes a lying position or she would run to somewhere where she would lie on her back with the expectation of the boy child to climb on.

The age range at which this phase starts, varies among children. Some girl children start this phase at age three and others start a bit late. In general, I've observed this to be noticed more in girls children from age three to age six. This phase is not readily obvious, I just feel it's worth mentioning here also.

Phase 2: Post Infant or Pre-Maturity Phase.

The next phase starts from about age seven to ten. At this age, the girl child gradually stops the play in the open. We should recall that these plays prompt her unconsciously to start lying down on her back expecting the boy child to climb on her. As the girl child is gradually stopping this aspect of the open plays, she starts to explore her sexuality rather in a more private way. It is at this stage that the girl child easily has her first sex if she is allowed or had the opportunity to find herself privately alone with a boy child she likes.

At this stage, some of the girl's children appear to be more preserved and reserved and to an extent appear to isolate themselves from the boy child in a subtle way. Quite unfortunately, most parents at this stage only see the isolation from the boy child and fail to see the asking in the eyes of these girl's children and the quest to explore their sexuality with the male child privately at the slightest opportunity they have.

Phase 3: The Onset of Maturity Phase.

The pre-maturity phase carries them into the onset of puberty. That is when they start having their menstrual cycles. At this phase, most of the girl's children start resenting the male child. For a long time, I've asked myself why this sudden feeling of resentment from the girl child towards the boy child at this phase, then I remembered that it is at this stage of the onset of their menstrual cycles that most mothers talk to their daughters for the first time about the male child and getting pregnant.

At this phase, the girl child learns more fears in life about the male figure than she ever thought possible and this informed her mind and being to be afraid of males in general. It is at this stage that they start hearing things like, as that blood has started coming out of your body like this, if you let a man touch you, you will die. You will get pregnant and I will kick you out of the house and your suffering will begin.

This information from mothers informs the thought psyche of these young girl's children to start brooding the next phase of their lives sexually and this next phase is the "I'm never going to have sex phase". Sadly for mothers who intend to instil fear in their daughters, this phase does not always last long.

Phase 4: I'm Never Going To Have Sex Phase.

At this stage, the girl child has just started seeing life from a different perspective, experiencing fresh discomfort that comes with her menstrual cycle. This new reality of having to pad herself overwhelms her mind and quite frankly, the adjustment can take some time to get used to and it is more traumatising than not.

This phase becomes worse for girls who experience painful menstruation. The discomfort that comes with padding is already an issue for them but having to feel pains on top of it is a whole new level of reality to most of them.  At this phase, they start learning how to adjust themselves in a new way while they lie, sit or walk with their pad on. The absolute freedom they once had is no more or will be absent for some days of every month.

In no time, the adjustment takes place as more and more people start telling them different things about the menstrual cycle and for some girls, this stage is the stage for the first time that they start doubting the absolute love and sincerity of their mothers about all the fear their mothers try to instil in them for no just course.

When they finally adjust which doesn't really take long, this phase of "I'm never going to have sex" would just pass like it never happened and life continues to the next phase.

Phase 5: The First Person I Have Sex With Will Be My Husband Phase.

One natural thing about the girl child and women in general is, during their periods meaning their menstrual flow days, as the blood journeys down and out of their vaginas, they tend to feel horny during those periods or at least, the last days of the flow. Even the girls who normally have painful menstruation feel a little ecstatic at the last days of their flow. And because this is natural for most women, the girl child starts feeling like something should go in there even though she does not know how it would really feel, she had started craving slightly.

And because she has started longing for intercourse sometimes, and she does not really want to do it because of the fear instilled in her by her mother or guardian, owing to the complications that might arise from intercourse has she has learnt, she would start washing and encouraging herself with the statement "My husband would be the first and only man I will do that with"

At this stage, a man or boy that comes to her for a relationship would hear something like, do you want to marry me? The girls who think they are not ready for marriage would be like "I'm not ready for marriage" and so on.

They would start psyching themselves up with the statement "I will get married before doing it". This statement is like a motivation to them to keep themselves on the path of not doing it till they get married but sadly, their minds are often adventurous and because of this, their minds are regularly informing their bodies to crave the more and as a result, their bodies begin to surrender the more to the feeling to quest for adventure in that direction and this causes their mind to start yielding to start having it. 

Mind you, the menstrual flow keeps coming every month and every flow comes with some sort of feeling to have sex, especially in the last days. Some older women would say "this is the stage their vaginas and clitoris start giving them a pinching feeling from time to time".

The battle between her mind, body and the feeling for adventure would continue until she would completely yield to her longings and then comes the next stage "The onset of she yielding to her longings".

Phase 6: The Onset Of She Yielding To Her Longings.

At this stage, a girl would like a guy and possibly even be fantasizing about him and when the guy noticed and decides to take the initiative to ask her out, she may start hating him for asking her out.

This is the first stage where her show of indecisiveness and confusion is first noticed. She would show you at some point that she wants you and outrightly show you that she doesn't want you.

This would continue until the next phase where she has subtly decided to have sex but she wouldn't want to admit that she wants to have sex or alternatively, she would want the guy in question that she wants to slightly forcefully take the sex from her.

Phase 7: Girl Is Dying To Start Having Sex But Wouldn't Want To Admit It And Would Want It Taken With A Little Force.

At this stage, almost everything about her is indicating that she wants to start having sex but doesn't want to start having it willingly. She wants to have it, but at the same time, she wants to pin it on her guy or man, that he made her do it. 

At this stage, she wants to take the willingness away from herself, let it not be heard that she was the one that was so willing to have it.

At this point, she would start playing seriously with guys, wanting any of them she liked to do something with her, that is if she does not already have her own guy.

sometimes, her wish comes true and as she plays around with guys she likes, one may somehow force her to unwillingly do it seeing that that was what she wants. Sometimes, she might even tag it as rape because of that first experience. Let me not go so much into detail about this rape tagging thing, we might not leave here. Let's move to the next one now that she has started having sex.

Phase 8: I'm Having Sex Now So I'm A Big Girl And I Can Get Whatever I Want So Therefore Almost Everyone Is Beneath Me Phase.

This phase comes with both actions and with words. Suddenly, the food she used to enjoy in the house is no longer palatable. She has started craving fried rice and chicken when there is Eba (Garri and Soup) in the house. At this stage, a room that she used to feel comfortable in before starts irritating her because, in her small mind, I have seen and had better. A guy that she used to respect before has become almost like a nobody because he is not up to the guys she cruises with.

Sometimes, at this stage, her mother and father mean less to her. Her level of disrespect has increased because she feels that she has arrived.

Sometimes, this phase and the next phase come hand in hand. The next phase is that they don't enjoy sex. 

Phase 9: I Don't Enjoy Sex So I Don't Like Sex Phase. 

At this stage, they wonder, is this the sex that everyone or almost everyone is talking about and craving so much for, saying it's enjoyable? I don't like sex. It's not enjoyable or is there something wrong with me? Is my vagina fine or do I have a problem down there?

At this stage, some curious girls have visited the hospital to see a doctor to inquire about the viability of their sexuality, especially the ones who hardly have someone around them to talk to.

Some girls see more adult movies at this stage because they want to see what they might possibly be missing. They might have come across adult movies earlier, but at this time, they would be seeing these movies for one or two definite reasons.

Not all girls fall into this phase but some of them experience this. Some of them never enjoyed sex like others do. Some of them later come the enjoy after many years. Some of them, start almost immediately to enjoy.

The details of why it is so will not be included in this article but there is a reason for experiencing what you experienced. In any case, let's move on to the next one. 

Phase 10: The Addicted To Sex Phase. 

Yes, I used the word addicted because anything you are having and can't stop having or you feel helpless to stop having it is an addiction. Yes, it could be a controlled addiction, but an addiction is an addiction no matter how controlled it seems. This is for the ones who find sex enjoyable.

At this stage, most girls just can't stay without fucking almost all the time and when they have a partner that doesn't give it to them anytime they want and how they want it, probably as a result of their previous behaviour or resentment towards it, or maybe their partners are often been occupied by something else and couldn't always be there to give to them back to back the way and how they want it, they'll start to indulge in masturbation with different items and sometimes even seek to have random sex with random people just to keep their urge in check.

In Conclusion

Almost every woman we see today passes through these phases. Almost every street worker today once said my first man would be my husband. Almost every prostitute today once said I'm never going to have sex.

From the seeming religious girls to the very seeming wayward and unreligious girl child, they all went through these phases. So, as a girl seeing this, no matter your state of mind presently in things like this, just know it's a possible phase and sooner or later you would outgrow it.

And as a guy seeing this right now, no matter the experience you are having with your sisters, relatives and friends, always have it in mind that it's a possible phase and sooner or later, the person in question may outgrow the phase.

The above phases are my personal opinion about the different phases a girl child passes through to adulthood sexually. If it's not the case for you or someone you know, you shouldn't be so uptight about it. Just let me know what you think in the comment section below.