Doesn’t it surprise us most times when people who seem to be in love, for the most part, break up eventually or announce their breakup? Most of us used to be surprised or act surprised when we see people break up or when we come to the point of breakup in our relationships. I often wonder when people seem surprised when their relationships come to an end.
I think that the end of any relationship starts somewhere. I think that signs of breakups in a relationship start from somewhere. I believe that breakups start long ago before it happens. And I believe that the signs have always been there. And often, I wonder, is it that we were blinded or we just chose to be blinded? I often say it does not matter whether we take the day to be night or the night to be the day, the day or the night is what it is and will always be what it is. No matter what we believe or what we want to believe, we can hardly change a natural phenomenon.
So, this brings us to the question: when does a breakup start in a relationship? When do the signs of breakup start showing up in a relationship? The relationship I’m talking about here is the boyfriend and girlfriend kind of relationship, spanning all ranges of its kind.
So, when do breakups start in relationships? I say breakups start from the very beginning of the relationship. The signs of a breakup start from the very start of the relationship. From the very first moment, a guy says Hi! to a girl and she responds, the eventuality of breakup starts from there, there and then if there is going to be a breakup in their relationship.
In this article, I list these signs in the following content for easy navigation.
The Overall Sign.
Now, knowing these things sometimes is almost instantaneous for some people but for most people, it’s not that visible. Let’s have an instance. A guy sees a girl, first, how she dresses, and how she carries herself, and others had given him a clue of how and what she might be already. To clear all doubt and to be sure, he had to make a move to establish a conversation that might lead to a possible connection. Now, he proceeded and said Hi! Her first response will reveal what she is more interested in, in a person of that sort. And it is always almost obvious.
A guy always knows what they have to give more in a relationship, likewise, a girl always knows what she wants more in a relationship. When what a guy has to give more does not match with what a girl wants more in a relationship, a breakup is almost inevitable unless they are both knowledgeable enough to manage these variances with best practices. When a guy has his legs more to give in a relationship and her first response indicates that she needs more of his head, seeds of breakup have been planted already.
Let it not be too surprising to us, breakups start from the very beginning of relationships. The seeds of breakup are usually planted by one party and this same party always has a way of watering the seeds planted.
Especially these days of social media with little or no matching sense from the netizens, it is very easy to fan the flames of breakups without even realizing it.
These days, people, especially the young ones, call such things cruise. They'll call it Cruise and say, I was just catching Cruise.
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What They Call Cruise.
More often than not, what these people call Cruise is a show of a lack of sense on their part, a show that you can call someone a fool and expects the person to be cool with you, a show of lack of respect, a show of lack of knowledge, a show of lack of Wisdom and a show of lack of the very least, a love that is enough.
A guy who claims to have a serious girlfriend or any form of girlfriend at all for that matter would get on any of his social media handles and post a status that says,
"I feel so honoured to have you graced my presence with your elegant being and you fulfilled my every fantasy. I had such a swell time with you today and can't wait to have more Angela."
Meanwhile, his girlfriend is Clara and Clara does not know this Angela. Even if she knew this Angela, Clara and Angela were not together when Angela was fulfilling his every fantasy.
This young man thought he could make such a post and still expects his supposed girlfriend Clara to still be with him. Of course, she left him immediately after she spotted the post. This is how the people of this generation have become senseless in matters concerning effective relationships. And when you want to advise them sometimes, they'll say, " who relationship help."
The other day, I saw a video of a young man who was slapped by the young lady he was proposing marriage to before she took the ring from him and said I Do. The young got up from his knees down and walk away while the girl chased after him saying "it was just Cruise, I am so sorry, please come back, forgive me, I love you, I'll marry you, etc." Of course, the young man left and didn't look back. See a part of the video below.
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The Systematic Breakup.
Number 1: Depicting that someone else is your equal.
A guy may seemingly be in a relationship with a girl and she would almost constantly be telling the guy most times he calls that "my other boyfriend is here with me right now, would you like to talk to him? He just finished giving me a foot massage. When I missed your calls earlier, he was giving me a foot massage. He just cooked for me, we just finished eating." And so on. And she will expect the guy not to react? The guy left eventually and she said he broke her heart.
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Number 2: Partner's Status Show.
A guy is going out with a girl and he sees her almost at all times on social media platforms catching Cruise on her status as shown below.
"The Status:" If Police arrest you now and they said you'll be released when your boyfriend calls you. When will you be released?
" Her response:" I will never be released then cos, I don't have a boyfriend.
" This one reads. It's someone who has money that looks for a serious relationship. This kind of post came from a girlfriend after she had asked for something from her boyfriend and he couldn't meet her target.
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