By Costly Oma.
The Magic Of Reflection
We all came and met days and someday, we will all go and leave days behind us but hopefully, we will all be here to witness many more days, weeks, months and years.
In the course of our lives, I think that there is one question that almost everyone has an already made answer to. I think that most of us don't have to think before our mouths open and the words to the answer start pouring out. I sometimes call it one of the preferred deliberate wants of human nature. It's something almost all of us want except for those who were consciously or unconsciously designed to doom the world and also destroy themselves in the process.
The question is: Do you want the world to be better? Do you want the world to be a better place? Your guess is as good as mine as to what the answer is for a good number of us if not all of us. A good number of us would want the world to be better, a good number of us would want the world to be a better place but what we often disregard for our dream of a better world to come true is that; The creation of a better world begins and ends with us as individuals no matter how low we think our level of influence is.
I believe most of us have read and have heard more times than we can count that for us to see, have and experience different results, we shouldn't do things the same way we use to do them. Sometimes I wonder why our actions directly or indirectly oppose achieving the things we want. This of course is one of life's lessons to me anyways. You can find more of my life lesson articles in my Life lessons section.
What and probably who we are right now is a result of what we’ve said and done before now and what we will be tomorrow will definitely be from things we will say and decide to do today. Our ancestors made this world we are living in today and if you ask me, the world is not so good a place for the most part. If we want to see changes and to leave a better world for the generations to come, we should strive in our day to day activities to consciously do things that will bring about a better world tomorrow.
The ultimate choice is ours today to make. The ultimate determiner of our tomorrow is ours today; we should think, see, choose and do wisely.
We always get back what we give into life and sometimes, in multiple folds, this is one of the reasons I say Life to an extent is a magnified reflector, what we give in to it, is sometimes enhanced and sent right back to us. When we put in a small amount of positive, we may possibly get back a greater amount of positive. When we put in a small amount of negative, we may likely get back a greater amount of negative.
The question is; what do we really want? what do we really want in the long run? I know that it can be confusing sometimes how we want something in the now and do some set of things to get what we want in the now and then forget what the long term outcome would be like. Some people would say; who has been futuristic helped? that, what is the guarantee that I would even live to be in that future I so want to be so concerned about? I know things like this can be dicey and sometimes overwhelming. I know that we all have the right to live for whatever we want to live for. Some of us live for others more than we live for ourselves and some of us live for ourselves more than we live for others. No matter how we chose to live, let's try to find a reasonable balance in the way we live to not leave the world far worse than we met it.
We are all leaders in some way and first of all answerable to our conscience and then to our Creator. If we find ourselves in a formal position of leadership, it is definitely because of things we’ve done or things we didn’t do whether directly or indirectly. We should not abuse it.
There are many other sides to this coin but for the sake of this article, I will be giving an illustration of what transpires between a particular leader and a follower. I do hope you find it worthwhile.
If you find yourself in a position of leadership or in the position of leadership you are in right now, do you aid and abet ingenuine reasons for absenteeism or intolerable attitude to duty? And the one serving under such a leader, do you seek permission for reasons that are not genuine? life can also be a reflector. We've often heard that what goes around comes around and sometimes it comes in slightly different ways so I say.
Here is the illustration: A young man was asked to lead a group of fifty and a particular young man in the group always does appeal to the leader to permit his absence and still be getting every benefit that comes to the group.
The truth is that, when this leader helps him, the leader will unconsciously put himself on this young man’s discredit list. I think I should rather tell the story than try to first explain what would be the outcome of it. Here is the story:
The leader finally yielded to this young man’s appeal and did as he asked. Several years later, this young who absented himself with the help of his leader moved higher in a position of authority and there was a need for his organisation to scout for a credible and competent partner, and this young man instead of nominating his former leader, nominated a young woman he once worked with earlier in life who refused all his persistent appeal for unreasonable permissions and who punished him for bad attitude to work, even though his former male leader was more competent.
As that was happening in the young man’s company, something close to it was also going on in this young man’s former leader’s organisation. They were asked to randomly nominate and pick who they’ve already come across in life who is diligent for them to do business with. The business has to do with a qualification that even though by qualification, this young man who always absented himself was better qualified, he couldn’t just nominate him because of his bad attitude to work and somehow they both missed out on chances that would have taken them to the next higher level.
Lesson:
- It is not the good things you do to people that fish you out in life but the good things you do.
- Doing something good to someone does not necessarily mean that you are doing something good.
- Let’s make our lives count and be the change we want to see.
- People don't often do what they prefer.
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