Are There Good Men Still

We often ask, “do good men still exist?” “Do we still have good men?” “Are there still good men?”

With the openings around the world and the trend of things in our society today, most of us have been made to say that “There are no good men in the world.” It is hard to believe though but it is true that, most of the people who say there are no good people in the world somehow still hope to meet a good person someday.

The truth is, there are good men still and there are good women still. Most of us just only keep going to the wrong places and hope to find good men there. And most times, when a girl meets a good man, she would complain as to why he is not going to all those places that good men hardly go to.

There are places good men cannot go or rather hardly go to, and so there are places you can hardly find good men. When you want to catch fish, you go to the river right? Or swamp or lake. You get the picture. When you want to catch animals for meat, you go into the forest. Likewise, there are places where good men stay because of their traits.

We cannot find good men everywhere, especially not in places where you can find everybody. One thing that a good man does not joke with is his value for his peace and quiet. Anything or place that will infringe on his peace and quiet is a no do thing or a no-go area for him.

If you can think of places where there can be absolute peace and quiet then you already know where to find good men.

And if you can think of places where there can be noise and chaos, then you already know where you would not be able to find good men there.

I’ll just list a few places where peace and quiet can be guaranteed and some places where there can be obvious chaos. Make your list of such places and know where you can or cannot find good men. Good men do exist.

Places you can hardly find good men

Clubs

You can hardly find good men in clubs. One of the reasons why a lot of women or young girls hardly find good men is because they are looking for them in clubs and good men hardly go to clubs.

Bars

Good men hardly go to bars. Good men literarily stay away from where chaos may likely occur and clubs and bars are one of those places.

Where to find good men.

Home

Home is one of the places where you would find good men. In a home where there is peace and quiet is where you can always find a good man. A good man always wants to stay at a place where he can have some peace and quiet. The only time a good man would not want to stay at home is when the home is not giving him the peace and quiet, he needs. Good men value their peace beyond almost anything.

Church

Now it’s not every man who goes to a church that is a good man but most good men always want to be in church because, in church, they don’t lose their peace. If you see a good man who doesn’t always want to be in church, then you’ve seen a church that is making it difficult for him to be there, mostly by a commitment he does not have the leverage of.

If the church is what the church should be then you may hardly find a good man away from church because they know the church is one of the places, they get refuelled to be the good men that they already are.

Good men always stick to themselves because they value their peace and quiet. Anything or any place that does not guarantee their peace and quiet, they stay away from.

If you ever meet a good man and he is trying to stay away from you, it’s simple, you are not letting them maintain their peace and quiet.

On the Road.

You can find a good man on the go when he is going somewhere or coming back from somewhere he had some peace and quiet. Those places can be repair shops, stores, driving or just walking by the side of the road.

Good men also keep their circle of friends small because good men can almost tell who a good person and a bad person is by mare observing someone or having a five minutes conversation with someone.

And good people know that they automatically become bad people by associating with a bad person and they don’t want to be bad people. They intentionally chose to be good so they know how to keep their circle of associates small.

Someone once said, show me someone who has a lot of friends and I will show you someone who is not defined.

Good men value the friendship that they have and they value what they believe in. Good men will hardly want to surround themselves with people they don’t see as good people because associating with such people they know can only ruin their peace and they value their peace so much.

Good Men Still Exist

Good men still exist, when you find them, the least you can do is to let them maintain their peace and quiet if you cannot add to it.

And when you find them, don’t try to take them to all those places that come with the presence of possible chaos like clubs and bars except he wants to be there. And when he went to such places with you and he said it’s time to move, don’t compel him to stay a little longer because most times he might have seen what you did not see.

Good men still exist, you can’t only find them in clubs and bars and quite unfortunately, those are the places we look to find good men the most.

Good men value their peace and quiet so you can mostly find them at home, worst-case scenario, on the road when they are on an errand or just taking a walk pondering on some stuff.

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